How To Attract Girls To You Without Saying A Word
Even today, not many girls will chat up men or ask them out. For a start, they're brought up not to , and rejection hurts them much more than it does us. Plus they think if you're a man worth going out with you've got to have the guts to ask them!
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What girls will do though is give off SIGNALS that they want to be chatted up. Most men don't know what these are. The secret to being successful is to know what these signals are and whenever you go out look out for these. If you get just ONE signal then swing into action IMMEDIATELY !
Remember, there's only one part of a man's body that most girls will melt for - and it's not what you think - it's your EYES. So, the first step to scoring is to make GOOD STRONG EYE CONTACT with any girl you fancy. It doesn't matter what you look like - If you have a good, strong gaze it can TURN HER ON. (Most men go wrong here - by looking at a girl's legs or breasts no way can you attract her to you.)
The minute you walk into a room start looking at every girl you fancy. Even if you think she's far too stunning to ever go out with you. And look at her eyes. Make full eye contact. And give her a smile too. Don't leer or glare. This is a sure fire way to get the chemistry going. It tells her she's under scrutiny and in this situation there is no way a girl cannot react one way or the other.
Finally remember - The best looking girls are often short of dates because few men dare to make EYE CONTACT with them. The better looking she is the more likely she is to warm to eye contact .
The minute you walk into a room start looking at every girl you fancy. Even if you think she's far too stunning to ever go out with you. And look at her eyes. Make full eye contact. And give her a smile too. Don't leer or glare. This is a sure fire way to get the chemistry going. It tells her she's under scrutiny and in this situation there is no way a girl cannot react one way or the other.
Finally remember - The best looking girls are often short of dates because few men dare to make EYE CONTACT with them. The better looking she is the more likely she is to warm to eye contact .
And How to Tell That She's Interested ....
You'll know immediately if a girl's interested. She'll look straight back, then turn away, and perhaps smile. If she fixes you in a steely glare it's probably not going to happen. IT'S THE TURNING AWAY THAT TELLS YOU THAT SOMETHING'S CLICKED.
There are other signs you should look for too. If she plays with her hair or jewellery , adjusts her clothing or breathes in (to show you how slim she is!) these are all so-called preening signs. They say that she's interested in your approach, and she's trying to look her best for you.
From a girl's point of view these signs say 'I'd like to talk to you !' SO IF THIS HAPPENS YOU MUST MAKE THE EFFORT TO TALK TO HER .
You'll know immediately if a girl's interested. She'll look straight back, then turn away, and perhaps smile. If she fixes you in a steely glare it's probably not going to happen. IT'S THE TURNING AWAY THAT TELLS YOU THAT SOMETHING'S CLICKED.
There are other signs you should look for too. If she plays with her hair or jewellery , adjusts her clothing or breathes in (to show you how slim she is!) these are all so-called preening signs. They say that she's interested in your approach, and she's trying to look her best for you.
From a girl's point of view these signs say 'I'd like to talk to you !' SO IF THIS HAPPENS YOU MUST MAKE THE EFFORT TO TALK TO HER .
HOW TO ATTRACT GIRLS TO YOU WITHOUT SAYING A WORD
Again, YOU have to make the move - it's unlikely she will. I've talked to hundreds of girls and they all say the same - If you want to chat us up come and ASK - don't just stand there and stare. If you can, just walk over and talk to her. This shows real guts and confidence which she will admire. If you daren't then MAKE AN EXCUSE to walk past her - on the way back from the bar or the toilets etc. - and 'accidentally' bump into her. Successful men do this all the time. It's usually no accident and if you've read her signals right she won't mind a bit!
When you're passing the first rule is CATCH HER EYE AGAIN with a firm glance. (Just think, if you're in a bar how do you signal to the barmaid that you want serving? Well, usually you catch their eye. Picking up girls is not all that different.)
At this stage don't preen - such as mess with your hair or adjust your tie. To a girl these are obvious signs you are 'moving in' on her. Her immediate reaction will be to put up the defences, whether she actually wants to or not.
The second rule - saying ANYTHING is better than saying NOTHING. Every opening line seems stupid at the time but probably isn't.
When you're passing the first rule is CATCH HER EYE AGAIN with a firm glance. (Just think, if you're in a bar how do you signal to the barmaid that you want serving? Well, usually you catch their eye. Picking up girls is not all that different.)
At this stage don't preen - such as mess with your hair or adjust your tie. To a girl these are obvious signs you are 'moving in' on her. Her immediate reaction will be to put up the defences, whether she actually wants to or not.
The second rule - saying ANYTHING is better than saying NOTHING. Every opening line seems stupid at the time but probably isn't.
THE SINGLE BEST WAY TO GET TALKING TO HER AND NEVER BE STUCK FOR SOMETHING TO SAY
Probably the single best way to get a conversation going with girls is to use PEOPLE TALK. Girls are naturally nosy and natural gossips. (Just look at the gossip stories in the mags they read.) So your opening chat should be about people - YOU and YOURS, HER and HERS, THEM and THEIRS. 1 don't know any girl who isn't interested in this sort of thing ! Try and get the balance just right. Too much about her seems nosy. Too much about you and you could appear big-headed .
Here are some good other subjects to talk about
Films
Music
TV
Holidays
Hobbies
The News - Scandal and gossip stuff , not serious .
Work
Well known people.
Pets
Clothes/Fashion
What NOT to say : Anything she's unlikely to be interested in, e.g. football. No problems, moans or complaints. Stay away from those boring, worn-out openers like the time or the weather.
The next important technique you must use is to avoid asking her QUESTIONS which can be answered with 'YES' or 'NO'. If she just answers 'no' and your nerve breaks then you've virtually blown it. It's far better to say something to which she has to give a proper answer. Then USE THAT ANSWER TO BASE YOUR NEXT BIT OF CHAT ON. This way you should never be stuck for something to say because she will tell you what she wants to talk about without even realising it !
23 PICKUP LINES THAT WORK
Here are a few opening lines which really do work. Try them and see!
Do you know Jane/Sam? Or, better still :
How well do you know Jane/Sam?
Where's Jane tonight.?
I saw Jane/Sam last night. She/he told me all about you
Are you Jane.? (Make up a name if you have to )
Are you Jane's sister?
How long have you known .... .
That's a great hair style!
That's a great dress!
That's a nice watch/necklace/unusual earrings!
That smells nice (her perfume) It's .... I think. (Try and guess what it is! )
Someone told me you live near ....
Didn't I see you in ...... last week?
Didn't you used to work in .... .?
Didn't you used to go out with ....? .
So what's going on in Accounts at the moment?
I'd rather be ....
Who's your favourite ".... ?
What's it like in ..... .?
What's John Smith like to work for ?
Do you like ..... ?
Have you heard about ..... (Something that has happened today.)
How are you today? (1 know everybody says this anyway but it works well if you sound like you really mean it AND make her tell you!)
If it doesn't work first time keep trying with a couple of other questions, or a couple of different subjects. But don't forget - LISTEN more than you talk. If you do this you can make sure you're talking about what she wants rather than what you want - making it very difficult for her not to get chatting to you!
HOW TO SPOT IF SHE'S PICKING YOU UP
Girls hardly ever use an obvious pick up line with men. The female brain is far too complicated for that! But they DO things that say 'I fancy you'. Most men don't know about these or take them the wrong way. You must learn to spot them and act immediately !
If a girl you've made eye contact with does or says anything that's not ACTUALLY NECESSARY or DOESN'T SEEM TO MAKE SENSE then she could be moving in on YOU. The following are classic signs:--
She asks you the time when she's got a watch.
She asks you for a light when she's got a lighter.
She makes any sort of joke.
She criticises your clothes/hair etc.
She bumps into you accidentally ( a much more common female trick than you might think )
She stares or looks you up and down then turns away quickly when you notice
She 'preens' or laughs or smiles every time you break eye-contact .
If any of the above happen start talking with her straight away. SHE DEFINITELY WANTS YOU TO !!HOW TO CHAT HER UP AND MAKE HER FANCY YOU
The open-up level is usually the most difficult. The chat-up should be slightly easier. The overall game plan here is to make your chat gradually more and more personal and so get her deeper and deeper involved as you go on. Make sure she's still interested before going on to the warm-up level. If she isn't try another line of chat before you start to bore her!
There are three things to remember here
Don't expect to do it all today. You'll probably need a proper one-to-one date before you can get past the chat-up level
Don't try and get her into bed tonight. (If you do - great but the chances are you won't date her again.) Far better to work on building up a long lasting relationship so that she's still there any time you want her in future. Believe me, you can only do this by getting her to feel that you're the man for her BEFORE it comes to sex.
Getting her phone no., address etc. should be a NUMBER ONE PRIORITY .This way, even if you don't get through the chat-up level now you can still come back to her again and again.
WHAT TO SAY IF YOU WANT TO TURN HER ON
Everything you say at this stage should be something that will get her going - not get her snoring! The subjects I mentioned earlier are pretty good bets. So keep trying them until you find something that appeals to her and then focus on it.
Usually, you can't go wrong with ....
Anything funny. Something funny that has happened to you is best. If not a joke will do.
Anything honest. Girls really go for honest men ( Or, at least those that sound honest! )
Anything sensitive - such as what a nice colour her outfit is. Girls find a man who can say something is 'nice' or 'pretty' a big turn on.
Anything that shows confidence and assertiveness - such as your opinion on something or other.
Anything that shows an exciting, couldn't care-less attitude 'So I got soaked on the way here -so what!
ABOVE ALL - Compliments! These really are a BIG turn on for her. Compliment her hair and clothes especially.
BUT - Learn how to tell if you're being BORING and change to something else pretty quick. (If she keeps looking away, or looks at her watch etc., this is a clear sign that she's going cold.)
HOW TO BE MORE SEXY
Never forget that the chat up isn't all about what you SAY. What you DO is just as important, if not more important. So always think about everything you do.
If you act TOO MACHO she will just assume that you can never care for or love someone - and a girl can NEVER find someone like this sexually attractive. It's for this reason that ice-cold stares, aggressive behaviour and treating-em-mean-to-keep-em-keen is usually a mistake. But well controlled physical power is a big turn on to girls and so you should always let her see that you've got the power!
Many girls have reported that there's one thing that makes a man really IRRESISTIBLE to them. This is to be HARD on the outside but SOFT on the inside. Yes - you're a man - masculine and maybe a bit aggressive on the surface. But, when you're with her you're just a little kid at heart. Now it sounds stupid to me too - but girls seem to love it!
All the following tricks can help
Always keep her in eye contact.
Always laugh and smile as much as possible.
Always stand face-to-face with her not side-by-side and not too near -So she can see you from head to toe.
Don't be afraid to 'pose-it-up' at this stage. Stand up straight. Stick your chest out a little. Smooth your hair. All these things tell her you're trying to look good just for her Girls know about and understand these things.
BUT - If you get the chance, get lower than her! Sit when she's standing or crouch when she's sitting etc. This makes her feel more powerful and it's the very reason why small men can often be very successful.
Look interested in everything she says, even if you know it's wrong.
Touch her LIGHTLY. But don't 'paw' her at this stage. Don't put your arm right round her, or on her thigh. These say 'you are mine' and are big turn-offs BEFORE SHE'S READY to be yours
Don't fidget with your tie/drink/change/pen etc. These are obvious signs of nervousness and lack of confidence which are very unattractive to her.
HOW TO MAKE HER BELIEVE EVERY WORD YOU SAY
Now, every girl worries about meeting a man who will take the sex HE WANTS and then dump her without giving her the love SHE WANTS. So at this stage you must get her to believe your chat and convince her this is not your aim - whether it is or not! You can achieve this with the TRUTH TECHNIQUE. This is done NOT by what you SAY but by what you DO.
Here's how it works:--
Keep eye contact at all times. If you're sitting down, sit up straight with your legs wide apart at the knees but keeping your heels together. If you're standing up keep your legs slightly apart, feet pointing away from each other with heels together. Shrug your shoulders and open the palms of your hands towards her. This is the classic 'I'm being honest' position and she WILL believe everything you say
Never cross your legs, or sit with your hands in your lap, your arms folded, or your hands in your pockets. And never use this 'truth technique' when you're sat behind a table or other barrier. Most important, never cover your face with your hand, or scratch your nose, chin or ear. All these say loud and clear 'I'M LYING' and she is unlikely to fall for your chat.
The great thing about using the truth technique is that once a girl finds an apparently truthful man she'll not only open up to him, but stick with him too - and happily ignore most of his other faults.
HOW TO GET HER PHONE NUMBER
As you'll know , girls can be very awkward about this. The reason is that , to a girl , giving out her 'phone number is usually a COMMITMENT - not just an opportunity .
Here are some methods you can use if you can't ask for it outright. All of them work MUCH BETTER if you use them BEFORE you have asked for her number and been turned down :-
Ask for her work number. This is much less of a commitment.
Ask for her work number by showing interest in what she does and telling her you might be a customer. Or, have a friend who might be a customer .
Talk to her. Find out about a problem she has. Offer to solve it for her. Get her number so you can ring her when you have found the answer .
Find out her surname and roughly where she lives with questions that are obviously wrong like 'You're Jane Smith aren't you?' and 'I have a friend who lives near you.. Make up these names if you have to. Girls don't often turn down a chance to put you right. (Then look her up in the phone book.)
Ask her friends. ( They won't turn down a chance to play matchmaker )
OR - why not give her YOUR number. A lot of girls turn down chat-ups but then regret it later when they've had a chance to think about it! Again, giving her your work number (but accidentally give her your home number instead) can be a good idea because she'll find it much less of a commitment ringing that.
HOW TO DEAL WITH THOSE HARD TO GET GIRLS
Of course, there are always some desirable girls who don't respond to your chat and you need to do more. If you're really determined to have them you'll have to move up a gear.
Why do girls act hard to get? Well, maybe they're not interested. But it's quite likely they just expect you to work harder. This is common in the most desirable girls who date a lot - they don't want to seem too 'easy' .
Try these methods :-
Say something funny VERY funny. (Prepare it beforehand.)
Criticise them. Usually this is NOT a good idea , but try it if you have reached a dead end .
Try a stunt - like dropping a tray of drinks etc.
Compliment her like crazy!
HOW TO MAKE A DATE AND NOT GET TURNED DOWN
By now you'll have a pretty good idea if she's attracted to you. If so, the time is right to ask her on a proper ONE-TO-ONE DATE. Every girl is much more likely to open up to you on a one-to-one date than a first or chance meeting.
The main secret here is to dress your offer up like it's NOT A FORMAL DATE. To you, the first date is probably a 'see how it goes thing, or a scoring opportunity'. A girl sees it very differently. To HER a first date is, hopefully, the start of a long relationship. So if you're TOO SERIOUS - like most men are - she'll worry and worry about whether she's doing the right thing and probably end up turning you down.
So - ask her out - but just make it sound like an ordinary, everyday occurrence. Make it sound like you've got an exciting social life already (whether or not that's true) and just ask her if she'd like to join in.
These methods usually work :--
Say you just happen to be going to the pub (or whatever)
tomorrow.... and would she like to come?
Or, a slightly better version of this
Say you and some friends always go nightclubbing (or whatever) on a Saturday night and would she like to come?.... (Your friends can always drop out later)
Say you've already got a firm date planned but have been let down. Will she help you out?
Say 'you'll go if she does '. This encourages her to accept by making her feel bad if you miss something.
Find out something she'd like to do. Just bring it up conversation before without ever suggesting it might be a date. Then offer to go with her. Hopefully she'll jump at the chance or at the least be too nice to turn you down!
If she doesn't accept then phone her later-you've already got her number right? Use these lines again. As I said it's amazing how many girls turn down date offers automatically then regret it later when they've had a chance to think about it.
HOW TO TURN NO INTO YES
It's probably because she's uneasy, or maybe even a bit frightened of accepting a date .
There are two ways to get round her fears :--
Make it clear it's for somewhere in public, so she doesn't feel unsafe , or too committed. For this reason day-time dates are usually easier to get , even if less fun!
If you can't get her to yourself, get a group together ( good friends will always disappear later on )
IF ALL ELSE FAILS wait till after the date would have taken place. Then call her and say you had a great time - but it'll be even better next time if SHE comes. This is not only flattering, but most girls can't stand finding out that they have missed a good time!
By the way, if you say you'll call always DO - At the time you said or before. If you don't you've probably blown it for good. And girls are always turned on if you call under difficult circumstances - such as using the phone at work when you shouldn't, or when you are away from home and have to search for a phone box! TIPS FOR PICKING UP OLDER AND YOUNGER GIRLS
In the first place, most men and girls tend to go for a partner about their own age. But do you have to? One of the easiest ways of increasing your number of dates considerably is to move out of your age group.
If you want to give this a try then the simplest rule for success is to understand HER reasons for wanting an older or younger man - NOT your own reasons for wanting them!
If you want to move in on older girls remember that they place a bit more importance on the physical and sexual side of things than younger girls. Again, it's the complete opposite of what men usually think! This isn't to say that personality doesn't count too. Play it confident and mature, but don't overdo it - She probably wants to feel younger herself and that's what she wants from you.
Younger girls are especially attracted to qualities such as confidence and maturity - often because they've found it hard to find them in men their own age. So, don't act like the men her age who she probably thinks are immature - In fact, the secret for success is to look at the lads you'd expect her to be dating and don't do what they do!
You'll be more successful if you remember to adjust your technique slightly in each case. A younger girl is likely to be easier to open-up and chat with in the first place, but harder to score with in the end - She'll need a lot more convincing and reassuring before she's ready to move on to the warm-up. Older girls usually expect you to work harder at the open-up and chat-up levels but, once you've established a relationship properly, she should be more eager to get things moving. ( If you're lucky she may even take the lead! )
SOME IDEAS FOR DATES GIRLS CAN'T RESIST
There is one never-to-be-broken rule about making successful dates :-
YOU decide WHAT TO DO and WHERE TO GO. She'll be impressed if you act assertively.
Remember, she should plug into your social life. Most girls are attracted to a man with a busy social life - so make it look like this even if it's not. But, it's vital that the date is something SHE will like to do. Girls can be a bit selfish in this way so even if you don't like it, make yourself like it! These suggestions are pretty good bets :
Pubs. Go for a country pub or out-of-the-way back street place. Not a disco pub with lots of other men waiting to turn her head. (Have you made this mistake before?)
Nightclubs, discos and concerts really are too noisy for a first date.
Walks. Ever popular and cheap. Good for holding hands!
Meals. Be careful here. Most girls worry about their weight and are embarrassed to let men they fancy see them eating a lot. She might refuse a date like this even if she's dying to date you !
Cinema. An old favourite. YOU pick the film but make sure it's something SHE will like, preferably a 'weepy' - no violent war films!
Sports. Not many girls like watching sport - most of them don't understand football, so don't take her to the match. However, if you're playing a sport and she can watch this will impress her.
A fair or theme park. One of the best dates invented. She'll be impressed as you win her prizes and prove that you're not frightened of the roller-coaster!
Family events, e.g. weddings, birthday parties. These can be a bit embarrassing but usually go down well. A lot of girls do go for nice squeaky-clean family boys!
Parties. You don't need a reason to have a party. Make one up!
HOW TO BE SO GREAT ON DATES SHE'LL WANT TO BE WITH YOU AGAIN AND AGAIN
It's very important to see the warm-up level and the seduction level as two SEPARATE things. A lot of men make a mistake here by trying to move in too fast - or trying to make HER move too fast.
The ideal date should START with simple, honest pleasures.
Think about the things you enjoyed on a trip out when you were a kid, before you knew what sex was. If you approach the date like this then the way the girl will see it is that you're a nice, honest guy who can give her a good time without expecting anything in return.
Again, unlike what you might think, most girls won't think you're soft because you haven't 'tried it on' on the first date. Plus, it's much easier to give her a great date if you don't move up to the seduction level until you're completely ready. You'll be much more relaxed and CONFIDENT if you're not worrying about how you'll perform later on.
Also remember, if you give her the perfect date she'll want to see you again and again. This gives you a chance to score again and again - AND build a diary of live contacts who'll be waiting to date you whenever you feel like it.
Here are some things you can do that will impress on a date :--
Call her unexpectedly just before the date - to remind her of the time and place. Girls worry about being stood up and if you do this she'll jump to the conclusion that you really must care !
Change what you're going to do at the last minute without telling her! Girls are turned on by surprises and men who do things on the spur of the moment. However , girls spend hours deciding what's best to wear so don't change from a posh restaurant date to a hike in the woods. Not unless you give her some warning .
BUT always PLAN what you're doing. For example, if going to a restaurant make sure you know exactly how to get there, what's on the menu - and what it is etc. This will make you look super-confident and with an exciting social life .
Get her a present. Chocolates and flowers are a bit boring - records, cuddly toys or bits of jewellery all impress. It needn't be expensive. Believe it or not girls still go for this sort of thing in a big way so try it!
Always OFFER to pay if you've set up the date. But if she offers to pay for anything let her. Girls go for men who are big enough to let them pay .
Treat her like a person. You wouldn't leave one of your mates waiting for you for an hour without a reason, so don't do it with her .
Other girls are OFF LIMITS whilst on the date. You can't kill two birds with one stone!
Finally, the odd kiss is fine but do nothing more until you reach the SEDUCTION LEVEL. Don't mention sex in any way yet she'll find it much sexier that you haven't and it can even make her more interested in you.
HOW TO GET A REPUTATION AS A HOT DATE AND HAVE GIRLS QUEUING UP TO MEET YOU
It's much easier than you think to get an enviable reputation as a hot date and so get girls wanting to meet you, rather than you having to meet them. Girls cannot help but gossip and once you've dated one in a particular place your reputation will spread far and wide. ( But this applies whether it is good or bad , so be warned !)
In the first place, of course, you must make sure every date goes well - I've already talked about this earlier. But the following techniques will also help :
Do your research. Date girls who KNOW each other, but not necessarily well, and admit what you're doing. See why this works next.
ALWAYS show an interest in her FRIENDS and COMPLIMENT THEM She will always tell them what you have said which will hot them up no end. (Rarely does a girl realize that she could lose you by doing this.)
Tell her you have friends who would like to date her friends. Girls cannot resist matchmaking. Her friends will come chasing you for their dates which is your chance to move in on them.
Take some of your dates through the CHAT-UP LEVEL and WARM-UP LEVEL but STOP before the SEDUCTION LEVEL This works for the reasons explained later.
Believe me, this creates a reputation which will drive most girls wild.HOW TO HANDLE IT WHEN SHE FINDS OUT ABOUT YOUR OTHER GIRLS
The aim is to use this book to build up as many live dating contacts as you require. Four or five live contacts at any one time is enough for most men.
But what happens when she finds out you're dating other girls.
The solution here is never to try and hide the fact. Admit it. If you've dated her well she'll usually put up with the situation, at least for a while, and she might not even mind.
There's a little bit of jealousy in every girl that makes a two-three-or-four-timing man that bit MORE ATTRACTIVE and even more keen to date you.
What girls REALLY HATE - and what will cause you to end up with a pint of bitter in your face - is if you LIE to her and pretend there is no one else.
HOW TO TELL IF SHE WANTS YOU
Again, make sure YOU suggest that the time has arrived for a closer relationship. Maybe you have been afraid to do this before, but you should try it next time. If she does want you, she'll admire your confidence. (Even if she's bold enough to suggest it, you'll have missed a chance to impress her.)
It makes all the difference if you tell her that you want to MAKE LOVE to her. NEVER, EVER tell her you want to HAVE SEX with her. 'Make love' was the best phrase ever invented when it comes to seducing girls because, to them, love is more important than sex.
Watch her reaction carefully. She's NOT READY if she says no, pulls away, or makes ANY excuse to get away. You'll know she's ready if she looks at you, then looks away, perhaps with some embarrassment, smiles, giggles, kisses or hugs you tight. The very mention of sex should turn her on at this stage and if it doesn't there's obviously something wrong. HOW TO USE HER CURIOSITY TO MAKE A HARD-TO-GET GIRL YOURS
This sort of situation seems like a nightmare at the time, but is really quite easy to handle once you know how!
The secret here is to play her at her own game. Get her well warmed up with the techniques covered in the WARM-UP LEVEL.
Then suddenly go back to the techniques in the CHAT-UP LEVEL.
Plus, avoid any touching or any mention of sex. In other words cool things right down.
Now, believe me, this puzzles EVERY girl. Because she's not used to a man turning cold on her. (The way she sees it, that's a girl's choice.) When you do this, she will think either of two things , both of which will DRAW HER TOWARDS YOU:
1. She will think you are 'not up to the job' when it comes to sex. This gives her a feeling of power and confidence. If she fancies you she'll make it her aim to seduce you. If she doesn't, the wicked side of her nature will tempt her to see how you perform. Whichever way she plays it you'll end up with the result you want!
2. She will think that she's not attractive enough for you. In this case she'll try even harder to make herself attractive and make it even easier for you to move on to the next step ...HOW TO GET HER TO SAY YES
As one said right at the beginning, all girls put love before sex. Mostly, they only want to have sex with men who they think care for them. They're looking for LOVERS who will be caring and loyal before SEX MACHINES. Not many girls want sex with a man unless they believe he cares for them. Even though this is the 1990's - and despite what you read in papers and magazines - very few girls pick men up for sex.
SO MAKE SURE YOU CONVINCE HER YOU CARE FOR HER. (Whether you do is a different thing.) To do this talk about her. Say how much she means to you. Compliment her personality. Compliment her body. And use the truth technique to make all this stick!
Touching is a great way to convince her. And this is exactly why I think you should avoid much touching until you're at this level. Most girl go crazy inside when they're touched or held by a man they like. BUT IT HAS TO BE DONE IN A SENSITIVE , GENTLE WAY and in the RIGHT PLACE. If you paw her all over her body, and hold her too tight , she's likely to cool down very quickly.
Holding hands is the best way to make the first touch. Weave your fingers through hers - It feels more EQUAL than just holding her. If you're walking together, put your hand in her back pocket, or just on her waist, and get her to do the same with you - she'll find your bottom very sexy.
When she's comfortable with that swing her towards you. Then pull her into your chest - most girls love it when they can feel safe and protected by their man. Good places to hold her are behind the shoulder blades or, lightly, on the waist. Hold her at a slight distance. Don't put your arm right round her just yet.
Hands OFF her bottom, breasts or thighs now - these are fine for bed but not now. If it's a public place she'll only feel embarrassed and turn off - even if she actually enjoys it. If you're dancing close don't push yourself into her - stand firm and let HER cuddle into YOU.
Some really good places to touch, which will excite her;
without going too far, are her ears, the back of her head, and her back. Plus girls are into hair - So play with it! Wipe it back off her face and stroke her cheek at the same time. And if you ever get the chance to slip her shoes off and hold or massage her feet - go for it! This is the hottest thing you can do to her without actually having sex!
When you're this close whispering in her ear is sexier than talking and draws her to you. Small pecking kisses give her a lot more sensation than one long, hard kiss. Don't keep your lips on her lips - her cheeks, ears, neck, shoulders, hands and forearms are all very sensitive and show her that you've got a bit more imagination than the rest.
Finally - keep the eye contact up. She needs to know that you mean what you're saying - and what you're doing.
And that's it! You've scored! With a bit of luck she should be sizzling red hot ready to satisfy your every desire!GIRLS SURVEY RESULTS
I've mentioned many times during the course of this book survey results from girls' magazines. I list below all the conclusions from these. Keep coming back to this list and study it so that you can continue to build on your success rate by keeping these in mind with the result that you give girls WHAT THEY WANT and not what you think they want. Do this and your success is assured!!
Girls want to be asked out. Ask them out. They might say yes or they might say no but they won't laugh at you or hit you.
Remember that if you don't ask you won't get , but if you do , then you might !
Girls love SINCERE compliments .
Girls like you to be direct but do this without bullshit .
Girls are dressed up and out to meet guys - that means you .
Most girls laugh at the super-cool medallion man .
Good looks are relatively unimportant and girls are wary of pretty men .
Girls are not the least bit concerned about the size of your 'wedding tackle'
Girls have the same hopes and fears that you have. They are just as worried about what you think of them as you are about what they think of you. Do you sometimes find it hard to believe that anyone could become interested in you ? After all , aren't you the most commonplace person you know ? You know what you think , you know what you feel , you know what you want , and none of it surprises you very much.
Right ? So why should anybody else be interested ? Girls feel exactly the same way about themselves , even the most exquisite of them ! They live with themselves all the time , bore themselves to tears , and take themselves for granted just like you do. So just as you are pleased when someone takes an interest in you , so is the girl .
Girls want you to appreciate them as a person in every respect , and respond best if you recognise all their qualities , intellectual as well as physical .
Girls don't like to be rushed. After all what's her hurry ? She knows what it's like to sleep with a guy. Usually she wants to get to know you first before she goes off to bed .
A girl is turned cold by a guy who overpowers her. Remember , girls are generally smaller and physically weaker than men. You may not always be conscious of this but girls are. They need some reassurance from your behaviour that you won't physically overpower them. If you can show a girl that you are not a physical threat then she will open up to you .
Girls need to trust you before the majority will consider going to bed. They need to be assured of both the seriousness of your intentions and the gentleness of your style .
Girls love anything romantic. This need not necessarily be the clinched red roses and candlelight dinners but surprisingly small touches that show that you have listened to her , remembered things she said , her likes and dislikes- are noted and absorbed. Anything which indicates it is HER , not girls in general , who is the focus of your thoughts. You'll be surprised at a girl's reaction if after only a brief chat in a bar you remember her name the next time you see her . TAKE ACTION
This book has given you all the secrets and techniques you need to become very successful with girls. Once you have read ( and fully digested ) the information contained within these pages there is absolutely nothing to stop you going out there and meeting and being very successful with as many beautiful girls as you want .
Or is there?
What about you ? You will not change the situation unless you now go out and try what you have learned .
But first-Relax-A guy wanting to chat up a girl is the most natural thing in the world. You will always be at your best with others , and this includes girls , when you are relaxed and not uptight. And if she gives you a hard time - so what ! - You'll still be alive. Even if you totally mess things up you will still be breathing but what you will also be is more experienced. Rejection is only temporary , albeit very painful and embarrassing , and you should learn to encounter it without it dampening your spirits. This is especially true at the beginning while you are still mastering your approaches and finding what works best for you.
Analyse every disaster and learn from it. If you do this you will learn and your success will grow very quickly. It might be painful trying but what chance have you to get better by standing on the sidelines or standing in the corner trying to look cool .
Take Action......Go out this weekend and approach twenty girls that you fancy using what this book has taught you. Now you will come up against a lot of rejections but that's not important. What is important is that you have started your training and will have learned something from every encounter. Remember to bear in mind that every girl , no matter how stunning , is a person like you , who wants to be treated like a person and not some sex object. Keep this with you always and your approaches and chat will naturally evolve to fit with your very own unique style and personality. And remember while you're learning , the more rejection you get now , the less you'll be getting later. So get it out of the way now. Remember - to be good at anything requires practice .
I know that if you're not used to picking up girls , then getting started can be a nerve racking experience. I know because I've been there. But you have got to do it !!! There is no alternative .
And , you never know , it might just be easier than you think.
Good Luck
There are three things to remember here
Don't expect to do it all today. You'll probably need a proper one-to-one date before you can get past the chat-up level
Don't try and get her into bed tonight. (If you do - great but the chances are you won't date her again.) Far better to work on building up a long lasting relationship so that she's still there any time you want her in future. Believe me, you can only do this by getting her to feel that you're the man for her BEFORE it comes to sex.
Getting her phone no., address etc. should be a NUMBER ONE PRIORITY .This way, even if you don't get through the chat-up level now you can still come back to her again and again.
Usually, you can't go wrong with ....
Anything funny. Something funny that has happened to you is best. If not a joke will do.
ABOVE ALL - Compliments! These really are a BIG turn on for her. Compliment her hair and clothes especially.
BUT - Learn how to tell if you're being BORING and change to something else pretty quick. (If she keeps looking away, or looks at her watch etc., this is a clear sign that she's going cold.)
If you act TOO MACHO she will just assume that you can never care for or love someone - and a girl can NEVER find someone like this sexually attractive. It's for this reason that ice-cold stares, aggressive behaviour and treating-em-mean-to-keep-em-keen is usually a mistake. But well controlled physical power is a big turn on to girls and so you should always let her see that you've got the power!
Many girls have reported that there's one thing that makes a man really IRRESISTIBLE to them. This is to be HARD on the outside but SOFT on the inside. Yes - you're a man - masculine and maybe a bit aggressive on the surface. But, when you're with her you're just a little kid at heart. Now it sounds stupid to me too - but girls seem to love it!
All the following tricks can help
Always keep her in eye contact.
Always laugh and smile as much as possible.
Always stand face-to-face with her not side-by-side and not too near -So she can see you from head to toe.
Don't be afraid to 'pose-it-up' at this stage. Stand up straight. Stick your chest out a little. Smooth your hair. All these things tell her you're trying to look good just for her Girls know about and understand these things.
BUT - If you get the chance, get lower than her! Sit when she's standing or crouch when she's sitting etc. This makes her feel more powerful and it's the very reason why small men can often be very successful.
Look interested in everything she says, even if you know it's wrong.
Touch her LIGHTLY. But don't 'paw' her at this stage. Don't put your arm right round her, or on her thigh. These say 'you are mine' and are big turn-offs BEFORE SHE'S READY to be yours
Don't fidget with your tie/drink/change/pen etc. These are obvious signs of nervousness and lack of confidence which are very unattractive to her.
Keep eye contact at all times. If you're sitting down, sit up straight with your legs wide apart at the knees but keeping your heels together. If you're standing up keep your legs slightly apart, feet pointing away from each other with heels together. Shrug your shoulders and open the palms of your hands towards her. This is the classic 'I'm being honest' position and she WILL believe everything you say
Never cross your legs, or sit with your hands in your lap, your arms folded, or your hands in your pockets. And never use this 'truth technique' when you're sat behind a table or other barrier. Most important, never cover your face with your hand, or scratch your nose, chin or ear. All these say loud and clear 'I'M LYING' and she is unlikely to fall for your chat.
The great thing about using the truth technique is that once a girl finds an apparently truthful man she'll not only open up to him, but stick with him too - and happily ignore most of his other faults.
HOW TO GET HER PHONE NUMBER
As you'll know , girls can be very awkward about this. The reason is that , to a girl , giving out her 'phone number is usually a COMMITMENT - not just an opportunity .
Here are some methods you can use if you can't ask for it outright. All of them work MUCH BETTER if you use them BEFORE you have asked for her number and been turned down :-
Ask for her work number. This is much less of a commitment.
Ask for her work number by showing interest in what she does and telling her you might be a customer. Or, have a friend who might be a customer .
Talk to her. Find out about a problem she has. Offer to solve it for her. Get her number so you can ring her when you have found the answer .
Find out her surname and roughly where she lives with questions that are obviously wrong like 'You're Jane Smith aren't you?' and 'I have a friend who lives near you.. Make up these names if you have to. Girls don't often turn down a chance to put you right. (Then look her up in the phone book.)
Ask her friends. ( They won't turn down a chance to play matchmaker )
OR - why not give her YOUR number. A lot of girls turn down chat-ups but then regret it later when they've had a chance to think about it! Again, giving her your work number (but accidentally give her your home number instead) can be a good idea because she'll find it much less of a commitment ringing that.
HOW TO DEAL WITH THOSE HARD TO GET GIRLS
Of course, there are always some desirable girls who don't respond to your chat and you need to do more. If you're really determined to have them you'll have to move up a gear.
Why do girls act hard to get? Well, maybe they're not interested. But it's quite likely they just expect you to work harder. This is common in the most desirable girls who date a lot - they don't want to seem too 'easy' .
Try these methods :-
Say something funny VERY funny. (Prepare it beforehand.)
Criticise them. Usually this is NOT a good idea , but try it if you have reached a dead end .
Try a stunt - like dropping a tray of drinks etc.
Compliment her like crazy!
HOW TO MAKE A DATE AND NOT GET TURNED DOWN
By now you'll have a pretty good idea if she's attracted to you. If so, the time is right to ask her on a proper ONE-TO-ONE DATE. Every girl is much more likely to open up to you on a one-to-one date than a first or chance meeting.
The main secret here is to dress your offer up like it's NOT A FORMAL DATE. To you, the first date is probably a 'see how it goes thing, or a scoring opportunity'. A girl sees it very differently. To HER a first date is, hopefully, the start of a long relationship. So if you're TOO SERIOUS - like most men are - she'll worry and worry about whether she's doing the right thing and probably end up turning you down.
So - ask her out - but just make it sound like an ordinary, everyday occurrence. Make it sound like you've got an exciting social life already (whether or not that's true) and just ask her if she'd like to join in.
These methods usually work :--
Say you just happen to be going to the pub (or whatever)
tomorrow.... and would she like to come?
Or, a slightly better version of this
Say you and some friends always go nightclubbing (or whatever) on a Saturday night and would she like to come?.... (Your friends can always drop out later)
Say you've already got a firm date planned but have been let down. Will she help you out?
Say 'you'll go if she does '. This encourages her to accept by making her feel bad if you miss something.
Find out something she'd like to do. Just bring it up conversation before without ever suggesting it might be a date. Then offer to go with her. Hopefully she'll jump at the chance or at the least be too nice to turn you down!
If she doesn't accept then phone her later-you've already got her number right? Use these lines again. As I said it's amazing how many girls turn down date offers automatically then regret it later when they've had a chance to think about it.
HOW TO TURN NO INTO YES
It's probably because she's uneasy, or maybe even a bit frightened of accepting a date .
There are two ways to get round her fears :--
Make it clear it's for somewhere in public, so she doesn't feel unsafe , or too committed. For this reason day-time dates are usually easier to get , even if less fun!
If you can't get her to yourself, get a group together ( good friends will always disappear later on )
IF ALL ELSE FAILS wait till after the date would have taken place. Then call her and say you had a great time - but it'll be even better next time if SHE comes. This is not only flattering, but most girls can't stand finding out that they have missed a good time!
By the way, if you say you'll call always DO - At the time you said or before. If you don't you've probably blown it for good. And girls are always turned on if you call under difficult circumstances - such as using the phone at work when you shouldn't, or when you are away from home and have to search for a phone box! TIPS FOR PICKING UP OLDER AND YOUNGER GIRLS
In the first place, most men and girls tend to go for a partner about their own age. But do you have to? One of the easiest ways of increasing your number of dates considerably is to move out of your age group.
If you want to give this a try then the simplest rule for success is to understand HER reasons for wanting an older or younger man - NOT your own reasons for wanting them!
If you want to move in on older girls remember that they place a bit more importance on the physical and sexual side of things than younger girls. Again, it's the complete opposite of what men usually think! This isn't to say that personality doesn't count too. Play it confident and mature, but don't overdo it - She probably wants to feel younger herself and that's what she wants from you.
Younger girls are especially attracted to qualities such as confidence and maturity - often because they've found it hard to find them in men their own age. So, don't act like the men her age who she probably thinks are immature - In fact, the secret for success is to look at the lads you'd expect her to be dating and don't do what they do!
You'll be more successful if you remember to adjust your technique slightly in each case. A younger girl is likely to be easier to open-up and chat with in the first place, but harder to score with in the end - She'll need a lot more convincing and reassuring before she's ready to move on to the warm-up. Older girls usually expect you to work harder at the open-up and chat-up levels but, once you've established a relationship properly, she should be more eager to get things moving. ( If you're lucky she may even take the lead! )
SOME IDEAS FOR DATES GIRLS CAN'T RESIST
There is one never-to-be-broken rule about making successful dates :-
YOU decide WHAT TO DO and WHERE TO GO. She'll be impressed if you act assertively.
Remember, she should plug into your social life. Most girls are attracted to a man with a busy social life - so make it look like this even if it's not. But, it's vital that the date is something SHE will like to do. Girls can be a bit selfish in this way so even if you don't like it, make yourself like it! These suggestions are pretty good bets :
Pubs. Go for a country pub or out-of-the-way back street place. Not a disco pub with lots of other men waiting to turn her head. (Have you made this mistake before?)
Nightclubs, discos and concerts really are too noisy for a first date.
Walks. Ever popular and cheap. Good for holding hands!
Meals. Be careful here. Most girls worry about their weight and are embarrassed to let men they fancy see them eating a lot. She might refuse a date like this even if she's dying to date you !
Cinema. An old favourite. YOU pick the film but make sure it's something SHE will like, preferably a 'weepy' - no violent war films!
Sports. Not many girls like watching sport - most of them don't understand football, so don't take her to the match. However, if you're playing a sport and she can watch this will impress her.
A fair or theme park. One of the best dates invented. She'll be impressed as you win her prizes and prove that you're not frightened of the roller-coaster!
Family events, e.g. weddings, birthday parties. These can be a bit embarrassing but usually go down well. A lot of girls do go for nice squeaky-clean family boys!
Parties. You don't need a reason to have a party. Make one up!
HOW TO BE SO GREAT ON DATES SHE'LL WANT TO BE WITH YOU AGAIN AND AGAIN
It's very important to see the warm-up level and the seduction level as two SEPARATE things. A lot of men make a mistake here by trying to move in too fast - or trying to make HER move too fast.
The ideal date should START with simple, honest pleasures.
Think about the things you enjoyed on a trip out when you were a kid, before you knew what sex was. If you approach the date like this then the way the girl will see it is that you're a nice, honest guy who can give her a good time without expecting anything in return.
Again, unlike what you might think, most girls won't think you're soft because you haven't 'tried it on' on the first date. Plus, it's much easier to give her a great date if you don't move up to the seduction level until you're completely ready. You'll be much more relaxed and CONFIDENT if you're not worrying about how you'll perform later on.
Also remember, if you give her the perfect date she'll want to see you again and again. This gives you a chance to score again and again - AND build a diary of live contacts who'll be waiting to date you whenever you feel like it.
Here are some things you can do that will impress on a date :--
Call her unexpectedly just before the date - to remind her of the time and place. Girls worry about being stood up and if you do this she'll jump to the conclusion that you really must care !
Change what you're going to do at the last minute without telling her! Girls are turned on by surprises and men who do things on the spur of the moment. However , girls spend hours deciding what's best to wear so don't change from a posh restaurant date to a hike in the woods. Not unless you give her some warning .
BUT always PLAN what you're doing. For example, if going to a restaurant make sure you know exactly how to get there, what's on the menu - and what it is etc. This will make you look super-confident and with an exciting social life .
Get her a present. Chocolates and flowers are a bit boring - records, cuddly toys or bits of jewellery all impress. It needn't be expensive. Believe it or not girls still go for this sort of thing in a big way so try it!
Always OFFER to pay if you've set up the date. But if she offers to pay for anything let her. Girls go for men who are big enough to let them pay .
Treat her like a person. You wouldn't leave one of your mates waiting for you for an hour without a reason, so don't do it with her .
Other girls are OFF LIMITS whilst on the date. You can't kill two birds with one stone!
Finally, the odd kiss is fine but do nothing more until you reach the SEDUCTION LEVEL. Don't mention sex in any way yet she'll find it much sexier that you haven't and it can even make her more interested in you.
HOW TO GET A REPUTATION AS A HOT DATE AND HAVE GIRLS QUEUING UP TO MEET YOU
It's much easier than you think to get an enviable reputation as a hot date and so get girls wanting to meet you, rather than you having to meet them. Girls cannot help but gossip and once you've dated one in a particular place your reputation will spread far and wide. ( But this applies whether it is good or bad , so be warned !)
In the first place, of course, you must make sure every date goes well - I've already talked about this earlier. But the following techniques will also help :
Do your research. Date girls who KNOW each other, but not necessarily well, and admit what you're doing. See why this works next.
ALWAYS show an interest in her FRIENDS and COMPLIMENT THEM She will always tell them what you have said which will hot them up no end. (Rarely does a girl realize that she could lose you by doing this.)
Tell her you have friends who would like to date her friends. Girls cannot resist matchmaking. Her friends will come chasing you for their dates which is your chance to move in on them.
Take some of your dates through the CHAT-UP LEVEL and WARM-UP LEVEL but STOP before the SEDUCTION LEVEL This works for the reasons explained later.
Believe me, this creates a reputation which will drive most girls wild.HOW TO HANDLE IT WHEN SHE FINDS OUT ABOUT YOUR OTHER GIRLS
The aim is to use this book to build up as many live dating contacts as you require. Four or five live contacts at any one time is enough for most men.
But what happens when she finds out you're dating other girls.
The solution here is never to try and hide the fact. Admit it. If you've dated her well she'll usually put up with the situation, at least for a while, and she might not even mind.
There's a little bit of jealousy in every girl that makes a two-three-or-four-timing man that bit MORE ATTRACTIVE and even more keen to date you.
What girls REALLY HATE - and what will cause you to end up with a pint of bitter in your face - is if you LIE to her and pretend there is no one else.
HOW TO TELL IF SHE WANTS YOU
Again, make sure YOU suggest that the time has arrived for a closer relationship. Maybe you have been afraid to do this before, but you should try it next time. If she does want you, she'll admire your confidence. (Even if she's bold enough to suggest it, you'll have missed a chance to impress her.)
It makes all the difference if you tell her that you want to MAKE LOVE to her. NEVER, EVER tell her you want to HAVE SEX with her. 'Make love' was the best phrase ever invented when it comes to seducing girls because, to them, love is more important than sex.
Watch her reaction carefully. She's NOT READY if she says no, pulls away, or makes ANY excuse to get away. You'll know she's ready if she looks at you, then looks away, perhaps with some embarrassment, smiles, giggles, kisses or hugs you tight. The very mention of sex should turn her on at this stage and if it doesn't there's obviously something wrong. HOW TO USE HER CURIOSITY TO MAKE A HARD-TO-GET GIRL YOURS
This sort of situation seems like a nightmare at the time, but is really quite easy to handle once you know how!
The secret here is to play her at her own game. Get her well warmed up with the techniques covered in the WARM-UP LEVEL.
Then suddenly go back to the techniques in the CHAT-UP LEVEL.
Plus, avoid any touching or any mention of sex. In other words cool things right down.
Now, believe me, this puzzles EVERY girl. Because she's not used to a man turning cold on her. (The way she sees it, that's a girl's choice.) When you do this, she will think either of two things , both of which will DRAW HER TOWARDS YOU:
1. She will think you are 'not up to the job' when it comes to sex. This gives her a feeling of power and confidence. If she fancies you she'll make it her aim to seduce you. If she doesn't, the wicked side of her nature will tempt her to see how you perform. Whichever way she plays it you'll end up with the result you want!
2. She will think that she's not attractive enough for you. In this case she'll try even harder to make herself attractive and make it even easier for you to move on to the next step ...HOW TO GET HER TO SAY YES
As one said right at the beginning, all girls put love before sex. Mostly, they only want to have sex with men who they think care for them. They're looking for LOVERS who will be caring and loyal before SEX MACHINES. Not many girls want sex with a man unless they believe he cares for them. Even though this is the 1990's - and despite what you read in papers and magazines - very few girls pick men up for sex.
SO MAKE SURE YOU CONVINCE HER YOU CARE FOR HER. (Whether you do is a different thing.) To do this talk about her. Say how much she means to you. Compliment her personality. Compliment her body. And use the truth technique to make all this stick!
Touching is a great way to convince her. And this is exactly why I think you should avoid much touching until you're at this level. Most girl go crazy inside when they're touched or held by a man they like. BUT IT HAS TO BE DONE IN A SENSITIVE , GENTLE WAY and in the RIGHT PLACE. If you paw her all over her body, and hold her too tight , she's likely to cool down very quickly.
Holding hands is the best way to make the first touch. Weave your fingers through hers - It feels more EQUAL than just holding her. If you're walking together, put your hand in her back pocket, or just on her waist, and get her to do the same with you - she'll find your bottom very sexy.
When she's comfortable with that swing her towards you. Then pull her into your chest - most girls love it when they can feel safe and protected by their man. Good places to hold her are behind the shoulder blades or, lightly, on the waist. Hold her at a slight distance. Don't put your arm right round her just yet.
Hands OFF her bottom, breasts or thighs now - these are fine for bed but not now. If it's a public place she'll only feel embarrassed and turn off - even if she actually enjoys it. If you're dancing close don't push yourself into her - stand firm and let HER cuddle into YOU.
Some really good places to touch, which will excite her;
without going too far, are her ears, the back of her head, and her back. Plus girls are into hair - So play with it! Wipe it back off her face and stroke her cheek at the same time. And if you ever get the chance to slip her shoes off and hold or massage her feet - go for it! This is the hottest thing you can do to her without actually having sex!
When you're this close whispering in her ear is sexier than talking and draws her to you. Small pecking kisses give her a lot more sensation than one long, hard kiss. Don't keep your lips on her lips - her cheeks, ears, neck, shoulders, hands and forearms are all very sensitive and show her that you've got a bit more imagination than the rest.
Finally - keep the eye contact up. She needs to know that you mean what you're saying - and what you're doing.
And that's it! You've scored! With a bit of luck she should be sizzling red hot ready to satisfy your every desire!GIRLS SURVEY RESULTS
I've mentioned many times during the course of this book survey results from girls' magazines. I list below all the conclusions from these. Keep coming back to this list and study it so that you can continue to build on your success rate by keeping these in mind with the result that you give girls WHAT THEY WANT and not what you think they want. Do this and your success is assured!!
Girls want to be asked out. Ask them out. They might say yes or they might say no but they won't laugh at you or hit you.
Remember that if you don't ask you won't get , but if you do , then you might !
Girls love SINCERE compliments .
Girls like you to be direct but do this without bullshit .
Girls are dressed up and out to meet guys - that means you .
Most girls laugh at the super-cool medallion man .
Good looks are relatively unimportant and girls are wary of pretty men .
Girls are not the least bit concerned about the size of your 'wedding tackle'
Girls have the same hopes and fears that you have. They are just as worried about what you think of them as you are about what they think of you. Do you sometimes find it hard to believe that anyone could become interested in you ? After all , aren't you the most commonplace person you know ? You know what you think , you know what you feel , you know what you want , and none of it surprises you very much.
Right ? So why should anybody else be interested ? Girls feel exactly the same way about themselves , even the most exquisite of them ! They live with themselves all the time , bore themselves to tears , and take themselves for granted just like you do. So just as you are pleased when someone takes an interest in you , so is the girl .
Girls want you to appreciate them as a person in every respect , and respond best if you recognise all their qualities , intellectual as well as physical .
Girls don't like to be rushed. After all what's her hurry ? She knows what it's like to sleep with a guy. Usually she wants to get to know you first before she goes off to bed .
A girl is turned cold by a guy who overpowers her. Remember , girls are generally smaller and physically weaker than men. You may not always be conscious of this but girls are. They need some reassurance from your behaviour that you won't physically overpower them. If you can show a girl that you are not a physical threat then she will open up to you .
Girls need to trust you before the majority will consider going to bed. They need to be assured of both the seriousness of your intentions and the gentleness of your style .
Girls love anything romantic. This need not necessarily be the clinched red roses and candlelight dinners but surprisingly small touches that show that you have listened to her , remembered things she said , her likes and dislikes- are noted and absorbed. Anything which indicates it is HER , not girls in general , who is the focus of your thoughts. You'll be surprised at a girl's reaction if after only a brief chat in a bar you remember her name the next time you see her . TAKE ACTION
This book has given you all the secrets and techniques you need to become very successful with girls. Once you have read ( and fully digested ) the information contained within these pages there is absolutely nothing to stop you going out there and meeting and being very successful with as many beautiful girls as you want .
Or is there?
What about you ? You will not change the situation unless you now go out and try what you have learned .
But first-Relax-A guy wanting to chat up a girl is the most natural thing in the world. You will always be at your best with others , and this includes girls , when you are relaxed and not uptight. And if she gives you a hard time - so what ! - You'll still be alive. Even if you totally mess things up you will still be breathing but what you will also be is more experienced. Rejection is only temporary , albeit very painful and embarrassing , and you should learn to encounter it without it dampening your spirits. This is especially true at the beginning while you are still mastering your approaches and finding what works best for you.
Analyse every disaster and learn from it. If you do this you will learn and your success will grow very quickly. It might be painful trying but what chance have you to get better by standing on the sidelines or standing in the corner trying to look cool .
Take Action......Go out this weekend and approach twenty girls that you fancy using what this book has taught you. Now you will come up against a lot of rejections but that's not important. What is important is that you have started your training and will have learned something from every encounter. Remember to bear in mind that every girl , no matter how stunning , is a person like you , who wants to be treated like a person and not some sex object. Keep this with you always and your approaches and chat will naturally evolve to fit with your very own unique style and personality. And remember while you're learning , the more rejection you get now , the less you'll be getting later. So get it out of the way now. Remember - to be good at anything requires practice .
I know that if you're not used to picking up girls , then getting started can be a nerve racking experience. I know because I've been there. But you have got to do it !!! There is no alternative .
And , you never know , it might just be easier than you think.
Good Luck
If you want to give this a try then the simplest rule for success is to understand HER reasons for wanting an older or younger man - NOT your own reasons for wanting them!
If you want to move in on older girls remember that they place a bit more importance on the physical and sexual side of things than younger girls. Again, it's the complete opposite of what men usually think! This isn't to say that personality doesn't count too. Play it confident and mature, but don't overdo it - She probably wants to feel younger herself and that's what she wants from you.
Younger girls are especially attracted to qualities such as confidence and maturity - often because they've found it hard to find them in men their own age. So, don't act like the men her age who she probably thinks are immature - In fact, the secret for success is to look at the lads you'd expect her to be dating and don't do what they do!
You'll be more successful if you remember to adjust your technique slightly in each case. A younger girl is likely to be easier to open-up and chat with in the first place, but harder to score with in the end - She'll need a lot more convincing and reassuring before she's ready to move on to the warm-up. Older girls usually expect you to work harder at the open-up and chat-up levels but, once you've established a relationship properly, she should be more eager to get things moving. ( If you're lucky she may even take the lead! )
YOU decide WHAT TO DO and WHERE TO GO. She'll be impressed if you act assertively.
Remember, she should plug into your social life. Most girls are attracted to a man with a busy social life - so make it look like this even if it's not. But, it's vital that the date is something SHE will like to do. Girls can be a bit selfish in this way so even if you don't like it, make yourself like it!
These suggestions are pretty good bets :
Pubs. Go for a country pub or out-of-the-way back street place. Not a disco pub with lots of other men waiting to turn her head. (Have you made this mistake before?)
Nightclubs, discos and concerts really are too noisy for a first date.
Walks. Ever popular and cheap. Good for holding hands!
Meals. Be careful here. Most girls worry about their weight and are embarrassed to let men they fancy see them eating a lot. She might refuse a date like this even if she's dying to date you !
Cinema. An old favourite. YOU pick the film but make sure it's something SHE will like, preferably a 'weepy' - no violent war films!
Sports. Not many girls like watching sport - most of them don't understand football, so don't take her to the match. However, if you're playing a sport and she can watch this will impress her.
A fair or theme park. One of the best dates invented. She'll be impressed as you win her prizes and prove that you're not frightened of the roller-coaster!
Family events, e.g. weddings, birthday parties. These can be a bit embarrassing but usually go down well. A lot of girls do go for nice squeaky-clean family boys!
Parties. You don't need a reason to have a party. Make one up!
HOW TO BE SO GREAT ON DATES SHE'LL WANT TO BE WITH YOU AGAIN AND AGAIN
It's very important to see the warm-up level and the seduction level as two SEPARATE things. A lot of men make a mistake here by trying to move in too fast - or trying to make HER move too fast.
The ideal date should START with simple, honest pleasures.
Think about the things you enjoyed on a trip out when you were a kid, before you knew what sex was. If you approach the date like this then the way the girl will see it is that you're a nice, honest guy who can give her a good time without expecting anything in return.
Again, unlike what you might think, most girls won't think you're soft because you haven't 'tried it on' on the first date. Plus, it's much easier to give her a great date if you don't move up to the seduction level until you're completely ready. You'll be much more relaxed and CONFIDENT if you're not worrying about how you'll perform later on.
Also remember, if you give her the perfect date she'll want to see you again and again. This gives you a chance to score again and again - AND build a diary of live contacts who'll be waiting to date you whenever you feel like it.
Here are some things you can do that will impress on a date :--
Call her unexpectedly just before the date - to remind her of the time and place. Girls worry about being stood up and if you do this she'll jump to the conclusion that you really must care !
Change what you're going to do at the last minute without telling her! Girls are turned on by surprises and men who do things on the spur of the moment. However , girls spend hours deciding what's best to wear so don't change from a posh restaurant date to a hike in the woods. Not unless you give her some warning .
BUT always PLAN what you're doing. For example, if going to a restaurant make sure you know exactly how to get there, what's on the menu - and what it is etc. This will make you look super-confident and with an exciting social life .
Get her a present. Chocolates and flowers are a bit boring - records, cuddly toys or bits of jewellery all impress. It needn't be expensive. Believe it or not girls still go for this sort of thing in a big way so try it!
Always OFFER to pay if you've set up the date. But if she offers to pay for anything let her. Girls go for men who are big enough to let them pay .
Treat her like a person. You wouldn't leave one of your mates waiting for you for an hour without a reason, so don't do it with her .
Other girls are OFF LIMITS whilst on the date. You can't kill two birds with one stone!
Finally, the odd kiss is fine but do nothing more until you reach the SEDUCTION LEVEL. Don't mention sex in any way yet she'll find it much sexier that you haven't and it can even make her more interested in you.
HOW TO GET A REPUTATION AS A HOT DATE AND HAVE GIRLS QUEUING UP TO MEET YOU
It's much easier than you think to get an enviable reputation as a hot date and so get girls wanting to meet you, rather than you having to meet them. Girls cannot help but gossip and once you've dated one in a particular place your reputation will spread far and wide. ( But this applies whether it is good or bad , so be warned !)
In the first place, of course, you must make sure every date goes well - I've already talked about this earlier. But the following techniques will also help :
Do your research. Date girls who KNOW each other, but not necessarily well, and admit what you're doing. See why this works next.
ALWAYS show an interest in her FRIENDS and COMPLIMENT THEM She will always tell them what you have said which will hot them up no end. (Rarely does a girl realize that she could lose you by doing this.)
Tell her you have friends who would like to date her friends. Girls cannot resist matchmaking. Her friends will come chasing you for their dates which is your chance to move in on them.
Take some of your dates through the CHAT-UP LEVEL and WARM-UP LEVEL but STOP before the SEDUCTION LEVEL This works for the reasons explained later.
Believe me, this creates a reputation which will drive most girls wild.HOW TO HANDLE IT WHEN SHE FINDS OUT ABOUT YOUR OTHER GIRLS
The aim is to use this book to build up as many live dating contacts as you require. Four or five live contacts at any one time is enough for most men.
But what happens when she finds out you're dating other girls.
The solution here is never to try and hide the fact. Admit it. If you've dated her well she'll usually put up with the situation, at least for a while, and she might not even mind.
There's a little bit of jealousy in every girl that makes a two-three-or-four-timing man that bit MORE ATTRACTIVE and even more keen to date you.
What girls REALLY HATE - and what will cause you to end up with a pint of bitter in your face - is if you LIE to her and pretend there is no one else.
HOW TO TELL IF SHE WANTS YOU
Again, make sure YOU suggest that the time has arrived for a closer relationship. Maybe you have been afraid to do this before, but you should try it next time. If she does want you, she'll admire your confidence. (Even if she's bold enough to suggest it, you'll have missed a chance to impress her.)
It makes all the difference if you tell her that you want to MAKE LOVE to her. NEVER, EVER tell her you want to HAVE SEX with her. 'Make love' was the best phrase ever invented when it comes to seducing girls because, to them, love is more important than sex.
Watch her reaction carefully. She's NOT READY if she says no, pulls away, or makes ANY excuse to get away. You'll know she's ready if she looks at you, then looks away, perhaps with some embarrassment, smiles, giggles, kisses or hugs you tight. The very mention of sex should turn her on at this stage and if it doesn't there's obviously something wrong. HOW TO USE HER CURIOSITY TO MAKE A HARD-TO-GET GIRL YOURS
This sort of situation seems like a nightmare at the time, but is really quite easy to handle once you know how!
The secret here is to play her at her own game. Get her well warmed up with the techniques covered in the WARM-UP LEVEL.
Then suddenly go back to the techniques in the CHAT-UP LEVEL.
Plus, avoid any touching or any mention of sex. In other words cool things right down.
Now, believe me, this puzzles EVERY girl. Because she's not used to a man turning cold on her. (The way she sees it, that's a girl's choice.) When you do this, she will think either of two things , both of which will DRAW HER TOWARDS YOU:
1. She will think you are 'not up to the job' when it comes to sex. This gives her a feeling of power and confidence. If she fancies you she'll make it her aim to seduce you. If she doesn't, the wicked side of her nature will tempt her to see how you perform. Whichever way she plays it you'll end up with the result you want!
2. She will think that she's not attractive enough for you. In this case she'll try even harder to make herself attractive and make it even easier for you to move on to the next step ...HOW TO GET HER TO SAY YES
As one said right at the beginning, all girls put love before sex. Mostly, they only want to have sex with men who they think care for them. They're looking for LOVERS who will be caring and loyal before SEX MACHINES. Not many girls want sex with a man unless they believe he cares for them. Even though this is the 1990's - and despite what you read in papers and magazines - very few girls pick men up for sex.
SO MAKE SURE YOU CONVINCE HER YOU CARE FOR HER. (Whether you do is a different thing.) To do this talk about her. Say how much she means to you. Compliment her personality. Compliment her body. And use the truth technique to make all this stick!
Touching is a great way to convince her. And this is exactly why I think you should avoid much touching until you're at this level. Most girl go crazy inside when they're touched or held by a man they like. BUT IT HAS TO BE DONE IN A SENSITIVE , GENTLE WAY and in the RIGHT PLACE. If you paw her all over her body, and hold her too tight , she's likely to cool down very quickly.
Holding hands is the best way to make the first touch. Weave your fingers through hers - It feels more EQUAL than just holding her. If you're walking together, put your hand in her back pocket, or just on her waist, and get her to do the same with you - she'll find your bottom very sexy.
When she's comfortable with that swing her towards you. Then pull her into your chest - most girls love it when they can feel safe and protected by their man. Good places to hold her are behind the shoulder blades or, lightly, on the waist. Hold her at a slight distance. Don't put your arm right round her just yet.
Hands OFF her bottom, breasts or thighs now - these are fine for bed but not now. If it's a public place she'll only feel embarrassed and turn off - even if she actually enjoys it. If you're dancing close don't push yourself into her - stand firm and let HER cuddle into YOU.
Some really good places to touch, which will excite her;
without going too far, are her ears, the back of her head, and her back. Plus girls are into hair - So play with it! Wipe it back off her face and stroke her cheek at the same time. And if you ever get the chance to slip her shoes off and hold or massage her feet - go for it! This is the hottest thing you can do to her without actually having sex!
When you're this close whispering in her ear is sexier than talking and draws her to you. Small pecking kisses give her a lot more sensation than one long, hard kiss. Don't keep your lips on her lips - her cheeks, ears, neck, shoulders, hands and forearms are all very sensitive and show her that you've got a bit more imagination than the rest.
Finally - keep the eye contact up. She needs to know that you mean what you're saying - and what you're doing.
And that's it! You've scored! With a bit of luck she should be sizzling red hot ready to satisfy your every desire!GIRLS SURVEY RESULTS
I've mentioned many times during the course of this book survey results from girls' magazines. I list below all the conclusions from these. Keep coming back to this list and study it so that you can continue to build on your success rate by keeping these in mind with the result that you give girls WHAT THEY WANT and not what you think they want. Do this and your success is assured!!
Girls want to be asked out. Ask them out. They might say yes or they might say no but they won't laugh at you or hit you.
Remember that if you don't ask you won't get , but if you do , then you might !
Girls love SINCERE compliments .
Girls like you to be direct but do this without bullshit .
Girls are dressed up and out to meet guys - that means you .
Most girls laugh at the super-cool medallion man .
Good looks are relatively unimportant and girls are wary of pretty men .
Girls are not the least bit concerned about the size of your 'wedding tackle'
Girls have the same hopes and fears that you have. They are just as worried about what you think of them as you are about what they think of you. Do you sometimes find it hard to believe that anyone could become interested in you ? After all , aren't you the most commonplace person you know ? You know what you think , you know what you feel , you know what you want , and none of it surprises you very much.
Right ? So why should anybody else be interested ? Girls feel exactly the same way about themselves , even the most exquisite of them ! They live with themselves all the time , bore themselves to tears , and take themselves for granted just like you do. So just as you are pleased when someone takes an interest in you , so is the girl .
Girls want you to appreciate them as a person in every respect , and respond best if you recognise all their qualities , intellectual as well as physical .
Girls don't like to be rushed. After all what's her hurry ? She knows what it's like to sleep with a guy. Usually she wants to get to know you first before she goes off to bed .
A girl is turned cold by a guy who overpowers her. Remember , girls are generally smaller and physically weaker than men. You may not always be conscious of this but girls are. They need some reassurance from your behaviour that you won't physically overpower them. If you can show a girl that you are not a physical threat then she will open up to you .
Girls need to trust you before the majority will consider going to bed. They need to be assured of both the seriousness of your intentions and the gentleness of your style .
Girls love anything romantic. This need not necessarily be the clinched red roses and candlelight dinners but surprisingly small touches that show that you have listened to her , remembered things she said , her likes and dislikes- are noted and absorbed. Anything which indicates it is HER , not girls in general , who is the focus of your thoughts. You'll be surprised at a girl's reaction if after only a brief chat in a bar you remember her name the next time you see her . TAKE ACTION
This book has given you all the secrets and techniques you need to become very successful with girls. Once you have read ( and fully digested ) the information contained within these pages there is absolutely nothing to stop you going out there and meeting and being very successful with as many beautiful girls as you want .
Or is there?
What about you ? You will not change the situation unless you now go out and try what you have learned .
But first-Relax-A guy wanting to chat up a girl is the most natural thing in the world. You will always be at your best with others , and this includes girls , when you are relaxed and not uptight. And if she gives you a hard time - so what ! - You'll still be alive. Even if you totally mess things up you will still be breathing but what you will also be is more experienced. Rejection is only temporary , albeit very painful and embarrassing , and you should learn to encounter it without it dampening your spirits. This is especially true at the beginning while you are still mastering your approaches and finding what works best for you.
Analyse every disaster and learn from it. If you do this you will learn and your success will grow very quickly. It might be painful trying but what chance have you to get better by standing on the sidelines or standing in the corner trying to look cool .
Take Action......Go out this weekend and approach twenty girls that you fancy using what this book has taught you. Now you will come up against a lot of rejections but that's not important. What is important is that you have started your training and will have learned something from every encounter. Remember to bear in mind that every girl , no matter how stunning , is a person like you , who wants to be treated like a person and not some sex object. Keep this with you always and your approaches and chat will naturally evolve to fit with your very own unique style and personality. And remember while you're learning , the more rejection you get now , the less you'll be getting later. So get it out of the way now. Remember - to be good at anything requires practice .
I know that if you're not used to picking up girls , then getting started can be a nerve racking experience. I know because I've been there. But you have got to do it !!! There is no alternative .
And , you never know , it might just be easier than you think.
Good Luck
The ideal date should START with simple, honest pleasures.
Think about the things you enjoyed on a trip out when you were a kid, before you knew what sex was. If you approach the date like this then the way the girl will see it is that you're a nice, honest guy who can give her a good time without expecting anything in return.
Again, unlike what you might think, most girls won't think you're soft because you haven't 'tried it on' on the first date. Plus, it's much easier to give her a great date if you don't move up to the seduction level until you're completely ready. You'll be much more relaxed and CONFIDENT if you're not worrying about how you'll perform later on.
Also remember, if you give her the perfect date she'll want to see you again and again. This gives you a chance to score again and again - AND build a diary of live contacts who'll be waiting to date you whenever you feel like it.
Here are some things you can do that will impress on a date :--
Call her unexpectedly just before the date - to remind her of the time and place. Girls worry about being stood up and if you do this she'll jump to the conclusion that you really must care !
Change what you're going to do at the last minute without telling her! Girls are turned on by surprises and men who do things on the spur of the moment. However , girls spend hours deciding what's best to wear so don't change from a posh restaurant date to a hike in the woods. Not unless you give her some warning .
BUT always PLAN what you're doing. For example, if going to a restaurant make sure you know exactly how to get there, what's on the menu - and what it is etc. This will make you look super-confident and with an exciting social life .
Get her a present. Chocolates and flowers are a bit boring - records, cuddly toys or bits of jewellery all impress. It needn't be expensive. Believe it or not girls still go for this sort of thing in a big way so try it!
Always OFFER to pay if you've set up the date. But if she offers to pay for anything let her. Girls go for men who are big enough to let them pay .
Treat her like a person. You wouldn't leave one of your mates waiting for you for an hour without a reason, so don't do it with her .
Other girls are OFF LIMITS whilst on the date. You can't kill two birds with one stone!
Finally, the odd kiss is fine but do nothing more until you reach the SEDUCTION LEVEL. Don't mention sex in any way yet she'll find it much sexier that you haven't and it can even make her more interested in you.
In the first place, of course, you must make sure every date goes well - I've already talked about this earlier. But the following techniques will also help :
Do your research. Date girls who KNOW each other, but not necessarily well, and admit what you're doing. See why this works next.
ALWAYS show an interest in her FRIENDS and COMPLIMENT THEM She will always tell them what you have said which will hot them up no end. (Rarely does a girl realize that she could lose you by doing this.)
Tell her you have friends who would like to date her friends. Girls cannot resist matchmaking. Her friends will come chasing you for their dates which is your chance to move in on them.
Take some of your dates through the CHAT-UP LEVEL and WARM-UP LEVEL but STOP before the SEDUCTION LEVEL This works for the reasons explained later.
HOW TO HANDLE IT WHEN SHE FINDS OUT ABOUT YOUR OTHER GIRLS
The aim is to use this book to build up as many live dating contacts as you require. Four or five live contacts at any one time is enough for most men.
But what happens when she finds out you're dating other girls.
The solution here is never to try and hide the fact. Admit it. If you've dated her well she'll usually put up with the situation, at least for a while, and she might not even mind.
There's a little bit of jealousy in every girl that makes a two-three-or-four-timing man that bit MORE ATTRACTIVE and even more keen to date you.
What girls REALLY HATE - and what will cause you to end up with a pint of bitter in your face - is if you LIE to her and pretend there is no one else.
HOW TO TELL IF SHE WANTS YOU
Again, make sure YOU suggest that the time has arrived for a closer relationship. Maybe you have been afraid to do this before, but you should try it next time. If she does want you, she'll admire your confidence. (Even if she's bold enough to suggest it, you'll have missed a chance to impress her.)
It makes all the difference if you tell her that you want to MAKE LOVE to her. NEVER, EVER tell her you want to HAVE SEX with her. 'Make love' was the best phrase ever invented when it comes to seducing girls because, to them, love is more important than sex.
Watch her reaction carefully. She's NOT READY if she says no, pulls away, or makes ANY excuse to get away. You'll know she's ready if she looks at you, then looks away, perhaps with some embarrassment, smiles, giggles, kisses or hugs you tight. The very mention of sex should turn her on at this stage and if it doesn't there's obviously something wrong. HOW TO USE HER CURIOSITY TO MAKE A HARD-TO-GET GIRL YOURS
This sort of situation seems like a nightmare at the time, but is really quite easy to handle once you know how!
The secret here is to play her at her own game. Get her well warmed up with the techniques covered in the WARM-UP LEVEL.
Then suddenly go back to the techniques in the CHAT-UP LEVEL.
Plus, avoid any touching or any mention of sex. In other words cool things right down.
Now, believe me, this puzzles EVERY girl. Because she's not used to a man turning cold on her. (The way she sees it, that's a girl's choice.) When you do this, she will think either of two things , both of which will DRAW HER TOWARDS YOU:
1. She will think you are 'not up to the job' when it comes to sex. This gives her a feeling of power and confidence. If she fancies you she'll make it her aim to seduce you. If she doesn't, the wicked side of her nature will tempt her to see how you perform. Whichever way she plays it you'll end up with the result you want!
2. She will think that she's not attractive enough for you. In this case she'll try even harder to make herself attractive and make it even easier for you to move on to the next step ...HOW TO GET HER TO SAY YES
As one said right at the beginning, all girls put love before sex. Mostly, they only want to have sex with men who they think care for them. They're looking for LOVERS who will be caring and loyal before SEX MACHINES. Not many girls want sex with a man unless they believe he cares for them. Even though this is the 1990's - and despite what you read in papers and magazines - very few girls pick men up for sex.
SO MAKE SURE YOU CONVINCE HER YOU CARE FOR HER. (Whether you do is a different thing.) To do this talk about her. Say how much she means to you. Compliment her personality. Compliment her body. And use the truth technique to make all this stick!
Touching is a great way to convince her. And this is exactly why I think you should avoid much touching until you're at this level. Most girl go crazy inside when they're touched or held by a man they like. BUT IT HAS TO BE DONE IN A SENSITIVE , GENTLE WAY and in the RIGHT PLACE. If you paw her all over her body, and hold her too tight , she's likely to cool down very quickly.
Holding hands is the best way to make the first touch. Weave your fingers through hers - It feels more EQUAL than just holding her. If you're walking together, put your hand in her back pocket, or just on her waist, and get her to do the same with you - she'll find your bottom very sexy.
When she's comfortable with that swing her towards you. Then pull her into your chest - most girls love it when they can feel safe and protected by their man. Good places to hold her are behind the shoulder blades or, lightly, on the waist. Hold her at a slight distance. Don't put your arm right round her just yet.
Hands OFF her bottom, breasts or thighs now - these are fine for bed but not now. If it's a public place she'll only feel embarrassed and turn off - even if she actually enjoys it. If you're dancing close don't push yourself into her - stand firm and let HER cuddle into YOU.
Some really good places to touch, which will excite her;
without going too far, are her ears, the back of her head, and her back. Plus girls are into hair - So play with it! Wipe it back off her face and stroke her cheek at the same time. And if you ever get the chance to slip her shoes off and hold or massage her feet - go for it! This is the hottest thing you can do to her without actually having sex!
When you're this close whispering in her ear is sexier than talking and draws her to you. Small pecking kisses give her a lot more sensation than one long, hard kiss. Don't keep your lips on her lips - her cheeks, ears, neck, shoulders, hands and forearms are all very sensitive and show her that you've got a bit more imagination than the rest.
Finally - keep the eye contact up. She needs to know that you mean what you're saying - and what you're doing.
And that's it! You've scored! With a bit of luck she should be sizzling red hot ready to satisfy your every desire!GIRLS SURVEY RESULTS
I've mentioned many times during the course of this book survey results from girls' magazines. I list below all the conclusions from these. Keep coming back to this list and study it so that you can continue to build on your success rate by keeping these in mind with the result that you give girls WHAT THEY WANT and not what you think they want. Do this and your success is assured!!
Girls want to be asked out. Ask them out. They might say yes or they might say no but they won't laugh at you or hit you.
Remember that if you don't ask you won't get , but if you do , then you might !
Girls love SINCERE compliments .
Girls like you to be direct but do this without bullshit .
Girls are dressed up and out to meet guys - that means you .
Most girls laugh at the super-cool medallion man .
Good looks are relatively unimportant and girls are wary of pretty men .
Girls are not the least bit concerned about the size of your 'wedding tackle'
Girls have the same hopes and fears that you have. They are just as worried about what you think of them as you are about what they think of you. Do you sometimes find it hard to believe that anyone could become interested in you ? After all , aren't you the most commonplace person you know ? You know what you think , you know what you feel , you know what you want , and none of it surprises you very much.
Right ? So why should anybody else be interested ? Girls feel exactly the same way about themselves , even the most exquisite of them ! They live with themselves all the time , bore themselves to tears , and take themselves for granted just like you do. So just as you are pleased when someone takes an interest in you , so is the girl .
Girls want you to appreciate them as a person in every respect , and respond best if you recognise all their qualities , intellectual as well as physical .
Girls don't like to be rushed. After all what's her hurry ? She knows what it's like to sleep with a guy. Usually she wants to get to know you first before she goes off to bed .
A girl is turned cold by a guy who overpowers her. Remember , girls are generally smaller and physically weaker than men. You may not always be conscious of this but girls are. They need some reassurance from your behaviour that you won't physically overpower them. If you can show a girl that you are not a physical threat then she will open up to you .
Girls need to trust you before the majority will consider going to bed. They need to be assured of both the seriousness of your intentions and the gentleness of your style .
Girls love anything romantic. This need not necessarily be the clinched red roses and candlelight dinners but surprisingly small touches that show that you have listened to her , remembered things she said , her likes and dislikes- are noted and absorbed. Anything which indicates it is HER , not girls in general , who is the focus of your thoughts. You'll be surprised at a girl's reaction if after only a brief chat in a bar you remember her name the next time you see her . TAKE ACTION
This book has given you all the secrets and techniques you need to become very successful with girls. Once you have read ( and fully digested ) the information contained within these pages there is absolutely nothing to stop you going out there and meeting and being very successful with as many beautiful girls as you want .
Or is there?
What about you ? You will not change the situation unless you now go out and try what you have learned .
But first-Relax-A guy wanting to chat up a girl is the most natural thing in the world. You will always be at your best with others , and this includes girls , when you are relaxed and not uptight. And if she gives you a hard time - so what ! - You'll still be alive. Even if you totally mess things up you will still be breathing but what you will also be is more experienced. Rejection is only temporary , albeit very painful and embarrassing , and you should learn to encounter it without it dampening your spirits. This is especially true at the beginning while you are still mastering your approaches and finding what works best for you.
Analyse every disaster and learn from it. If you do this you will learn and your success will grow very quickly. It might be painful trying but what chance have you to get better by standing on the sidelines or standing in the corner trying to look cool .
Take Action......Go out this weekend and approach twenty girls that you fancy using what this book has taught you. Now you will come up against a lot of rejections but that's not important. What is important is that you have started your training and will have learned something from every encounter. Remember to bear in mind that every girl , no matter how stunning , is a person like you , who wants to be treated like a person and not some sex object. Keep this with you always and your approaches and chat will naturally evolve to fit with your very own unique style and personality. And remember while you're learning , the more rejection you get now , the less you'll be getting later. So get it out of the way now. Remember - to be good at anything requires practice .
I know that if you're not used to picking up girls , then getting started can be a nerve racking experience. I know because I've been there. But you have got to do it !!! There is no alternative .
And , you never know , it might just be easier than you think.
Good Luck
It makes all the difference if you tell her that you want to MAKE LOVE to her. NEVER, EVER tell her you want to HAVE SEX with her. 'Make love' was the best phrase ever invented when it comes to seducing girls because, to them, love is more important than sex.
Watch her reaction carefully. She's NOT READY if she says no, pulls away, or makes ANY excuse to get away. You'll know she's ready if she looks at you, then looks away, perhaps with some embarrassment, smiles, giggles, kisses or hugs you tight. The very mention of sex should turn her on at this stage and if it doesn't there's obviously something wrong.
HOW TO USE HER CURIOSITY TO MAKE A HARD-TO-GET GIRL YOURS
This sort of situation seems like a nightmare at the time, but is really quite easy to handle once you know how!
The secret here is to play her at her own game. Get her well warmed up with the techniques covered in the WARM-UP LEVEL.
Then suddenly go back to the techniques in the CHAT-UP LEVEL.
Plus, avoid any touching or any mention of sex. In other words cool things right down.
Now, believe me, this puzzles EVERY girl. Because she's not used to a man turning cold on her. (The way she sees it, that's a girl's choice.) When you do this, she will think either of two things , both of which will DRAW HER TOWARDS YOU:
1. She will think you are 'not up to the job' when it comes to sex. This gives her a feeling of power and confidence. If she fancies you she'll make it her aim to seduce you. If she doesn't, the wicked side of her nature will tempt her to see how you perform. Whichever way she plays it you'll end up with the result you want!
2. She will think that she's not attractive enough for you. In this case she'll try even harder to make herself attractive and make it even easier for you to move on to the next step ...HOW TO GET HER TO SAY YES
As one said right at the beginning, all girls put love before sex. Mostly, they only want to have sex with men who they think care for them. They're looking for LOVERS who will be caring and loyal before SEX MACHINES. Not many girls want sex with a man unless they believe he cares for them. Even though this is the 1990's - and despite what you read in papers and magazines - very few girls pick men up for sex.
SO MAKE SURE YOU CONVINCE HER YOU CARE FOR HER. (Whether you do is a different thing.) To do this talk about her. Say how much she means to you. Compliment her personality. Compliment her body. And use the truth technique to make all this stick!
Touching is a great way to convince her. And this is exactly why I think you should avoid much touching until you're at this level. Most girl go crazy inside when they're touched or held by a man they like. BUT IT HAS TO BE DONE IN A SENSITIVE , GENTLE WAY and in the RIGHT PLACE. If you paw her all over her body, and hold her too tight , she's likely to cool down very quickly.
Holding hands is the best way to make the first touch. Weave your fingers through hers - It feels more EQUAL than just holding her. If you're walking together, put your hand in her back pocket, or just on her waist, and get her to do the same with you - she'll find your bottom very sexy.
When she's comfortable with that swing her towards you. Then pull her into your chest - most girls love it when they can feel safe and protected by their man. Good places to hold her are behind the shoulder blades or, lightly, on the waist. Hold her at a slight distance. Don't put your arm right round her just yet.
Hands OFF her bottom, breasts or thighs now - these are fine for bed but not now. If it's a public place she'll only feel embarrassed and turn off - even if she actually enjoys it. If you're dancing close don't push yourself into her - stand firm and let HER cuddle into YOU.
Some really good places to touch, which will excite her;
without going too far, are her ears, the back of her head, and her back. Plus girls are into hair - So play with it! Wipe it back off her face and stroke her cheek at the same time. And if you ever get the chance to slip her shoes off and hold or massage her feet - go for it! This is the hottest thing you can do to her without actually having sex!
When you're this close whispering in her ear is sexier than talking and draws her to you. Small pecking kisses give her a lot more sensation than one long, hard kiss. Don't keep your lips on her lips - her cheeks, ears, neck, shoulders, hands and forearms are all very sensitive and show her that you've got a bit more imagination than the rest.
Finally - keep the eye contact up. She needs to know that you mean what you're saying - and what you're doing.
And that's it! You've scored! With a bit of luck she should be sizzling red hot ready to satisfy your every desire!GIRLS SURVEY RESULTS
I've mentioned many times during the course of this book survey results from girls' magazines. I list below all the conclusions from these. Keep coming back to this list and study it so that you can continue to build on your success rate by keeping these in mind with the result that you give girls WHAT THEY WANT and not what you think they want. Do this and your success is assured!!
Girls want to be asked out. Ask them out. They might say yes or they might say no but they won't laugh at you or hit you.
Remember that if you don't ask you won't get , but if you do , then you might !
Girls love SINCERE compliments .
Girls like you to be direct but do this without bullshit .
Girls are dressed up and out to meet guys - that means you .
Most girls laugh at the super-cool medallion man .
Good looks are relatively unimportant and girls are wary of pretty men .
Girls are not the least bit concerned about the size of your 'wedding tackle'
Girls have the same hopes and fears that you have. They are just as worried about what you think of them as you are about what they think of you. Do you sometimes find it hard to believe that anyone could become interested in you ? After all , aren't you the most commonplace person you know ? You know what you think , you know what you feel , you know what you want , and none of it surprises you very much.
Right ? So why should anybody else be interested ? Girls feel exactly the same way about themselves , even the most exquisite of them ! They live with themselves all the time , bore themselves to tears , and take themselves for granted just like you do. So just as you are pleased when someone takes an interest in you , so is the girl .
Girls want you to appreciate them as a person in every respect , and respond best if you recognise all their qualities , intellectual as well as physical .
Girls don't like to be rushed. After all what's her hurry ? She knows what it's like to sleep with a guy. Usually she wants to get to know you first before she goes off to bed .
A girl is turned cold by a guy who overpowers her. Remember , girls are generally smaller and physically weaker than men. You may not always be conscious of this but girls are. They need some reassurance from your behaviour that you won't physically overpower them. If you can show a girl that you are not a physical threat then she will open up to you .
Girls need to trust you before the majority will consider going to bed. They need to be assured of both the seriousness of your intentions and the gentleness of your style .
Girls love anything romantic. This need not necessarily be the clinched red roses and candlelight dinners but surprisingly small touches that show that you have listened to her , remembered things she said , her likes and dislikes- are noted and absorbed. Anything which indicates it is HER , not girls in general , who is the focus of your thoughts. You'll be surprised at a girl's reaction if after only a brief chat in a bar you remember her name the next time you see her . TAKE ACTION
This book has given you all the secrets and techniques you need to become very successful with girls. Once you have read ( and fully digested ) the information contained within these pages there is absolutely nothing to stop you going out there and meeting and being very successful with as many beautiful girls as you want .
Or is there?
What about you ? You will not change the situation unless you now go out and try what you have learned .
But first-Relax-A guy wanting to chat up a girl is the most natural thing in the world. You will always be at your best with others , and this includes girls , when you are relaxed and not uptight. And if she gives you a hard time - so what ! - You'll still be alive. Even if you totally mess things up you will still be breathing but what you will also be is more experienced. Rejection is only temporary , albeit very painful and embarrassing , and you should learn to encounter it without it dampening your spirits. This is especially true at the beginning while you are still mastering your approaches and finding what works best for you.
Analyse every disaster and learn from it. If you do this you will learn and your success will grow very quickly. It might be painful trying but what chance have you to get better by standing on the sidelines or standing in the corner trying to look cool .
Take Action......Go out this weekend and approach twenty girls that you fancy using what this book has taught you. Now you will come up against a lot of rejections but that's not important. What is important is that you have started your training and will have learned something from every encounter. Remember to bear in mind that every girl , no matter how stunning , is a person like you , who wants to be treated like a person and not some sex object. Keep this with you always and your approaches and chat will naturally evolve to fit with your very own unique style and personality. And remember while you're learning , the more rejection you get now , the less you'll be getting later. So get it out of the way now. Remember - to be good at anything requires practice .
I know that if you're not used to picking up girls , then getting started can be a nerve racking experience. I know because I've been there. But you have got to do it !!! There is no alternative .
And , you never know , it might just be easier than you think.
Good Luck
SO MAKE SURE YOU CONVINCE HER YOU CARE FOR HER. (Whether you do is a different thing.) To do this talk about her. Say how much she means to you. Compliment her personality. Compliment her body. And use the truth technique to make all this stick!
Touching is a great way to convince her. And this is exactly why I think you should avoid much touching until you're at this level. Most girl go crazy inside when they're touched or held by a man they like. BUT IT HAS TO BE DONE IN A SENSITIVE , GENTLE WAY and in the RIGHT PLACE. If you paw her all over her body, and hold her too tight , she's likely to cool down very quickly.
Holding hands is the best way to make the first touch. Weave your fingers through hers - It feels more EQUAL than just holding her. If you're walking together, put your hand in her back pocket, or just on her waist, and get her to do the same with you - she'll find your bottom very sexy.
When she's comfortable with that swing her towards you. Then pull her into your chest - most girls love it when they can feel safe and protected by their man. Good places to hold her are behind the shoulder blades or, lightly, on the waist. Hold her at a slight distance. Don't put your arm right round her just yet.
Hands OFF her bottom, breasts or thighs now - these are fine for bed but not now. If it's a public place she'll only feel embarrassed and turn off - even if she actually enjoys it. If you're dancing close don't push yourself into her - stand firm and let HER cuddle into YOU.
Some really good places to touch, which will excite her;
without going too far, are her ears, the back of her head, and her back. Plus girls are into hair - So play with it! Wipe it back off her face and stroke her cheek at the same time. And if you ever get the chance to slip her shoes off and hold or massage her feet - go for it! This is the hottest thing you can do to her without actually having sex!
When you're this close whispering in her ear is sexier than talking and draws her to you. Small pecking kisses give her a lot more sensation than one long, hard kiss. Don't keep your lips on her lips - her cheeks, ears, neck, shoulders, hands and forearms are all very sensitive and show her that you've got a bit more imagination than the rest.
Finally - keep the eye contact up. She needs to know that you mean what you're saying - and what you're doing.
And that's it! You've scored! With a bit of luck she should be sizzling red hot ready to satisfy your every desire!
GIRLS SURVEY RESULTS
I've mentioned many times during the course of this book survey results from girls' magazines. I list below all the conclusions from these. Keep coming back to this list and study it so that you can continue to build on your success rate by keeping these in mind with the result that you give girls WHAT THEY WANT and not what you think they want. Do this and your success is assured!!
Girls want to be asked out. Ask them out. They might say yes or they might say no but they won't laugh at you or hit you.
Remember that if you don't ask you won't get , but if you do , then you might !
Girls love SINCERE compliments .
Girls like you to be direct but do this without bullshit .
Girls are dressed up and out to meet guys - that means you .
Most girls laugh at the super-cool medallion man .
Good looks are relatively unimportant and girls are wary of pretty men .
Girls are not the least bit concerned about the size of your 'wedding tackle'
Girls have the same hopes and fears that you have. They are just as worried about what you think of them as you are about what they think of you. Do you sometimes find it hard to believe that anyone could become interested in you ? After all , aren't you the most commonplace person you know ? You know what you think , you know what you feel , you know what you want , and none of it surprises you very much.
Right ? So why should anybody else be interested ? Girls feel exactly the same way about themselves , even the most exquisite of them ! They live with themselves all the time , bore themselves to tears , and take themselves for granted just like you do. So just as you are pleased when someone takes an interest in you , so is the girl .
Girls want you to appreciate them as a person in every respect , and respond best if you recognise all their qualities , intellectual as well as physical .
Girls don't like to be rushed. After all what's her hurry ? She knows what it's like to sleep with a guy. Usually she wants to get to know you first before she goes off to bed .
A girl is turned cold by a guy who overpowers her. Remember , girls are generally smaller and physically weaker than men. You may not always be conscious of this but girls are. They need some reassurance from your behaviour that you won't physically overpower them. If you can show a girl that you are not a physical threat then she will open up to you .
Girls need to trust you before the majority will consider going to bed. They need to be assured of both the seriousness of your intentions and the gentleness of your style .
Girls love anything romantic. This need not necessarily be the clinched red roses and candlelight dinners but surprisingly small touches that show that you have listened to her , remembered things she said , her likes and dislikes- are noted and absorbed. Anything which indicates it is HER , not girls in general , who is the focus of your thoughts. You'll be surprised at a girl's reaction if after only a brief chat in a bar you remember her name the next time you see her . TAKE ACTION
This book has given you all the secrets and techniques you need to become very successful with girls. Once you have read ( and fully digested ) the information contained within these pages there is absolutely nothing to stop you going out there and meeting and being very successful with as many beautiful girls as you want .
Or is there?
What about you ? You will not change the situation unless you now go out and try what you have learned .
But first-Relax-A guy wanting to chat up a girl is the most natural thing in the world. You will always be at your best with others , and this includes girls , when you are relaxed and not uptight. And if she gives you a hard time - so what ! - You'll still be alive. Even if you totally mess things up you will still be breathing but what you will also be is more experienced. Rejection is only temporary , albeit very painful and embarrassing , and you should learn to encounter it without it dampening your spirits. This is especially true at the beginning while you are still mastering your approaches and finding what works best for you.
Analyse every disaster and learn from it. If you do this you will learn and your success will grow very quickly. It might be painful trying but what chance have you to get better by standing on the sidelines or standing in the corner trying to look cool .
Take Action......Go out this weekend and approach twenty girls that you fancy using what this book has taught you. Now you will come up against a lot of rejections but that's not important. What is important is that you have started your training and will have learned something from every encounter. Remember to bear in mind that every girl , no matter how stunning , is a person like you , who wants to be treated like a person and not some sex object. Keep this with you always and your approaches and chat will naturally evolve to fit with your very own unique style and personality. And remember while you're learning , the more rejection you get now , the less you'll be getting later. So get it out of the way now. Remember - to be good at anything requires practice .
I know that if you're not used to picking up girls , then getting started can be a nerve racking experience. I know because I've been there. But you have got to do it !!! There is no alternative .
And , you never know , it might just be easier than you think.
Good Luck
Or is there?
What about you ? You will not change the situation unless you now go out and try what you have learned .
But first-Relax-A guy wanting to chat up a girl is the most natural thing in the world. You will always be at your best with others , and this includes girls , when you are relaxed and not uptight. And if she gives you a hard time - so what ! - You'll still be alive. Even if you totally mess things up you will still be breathing but what you will also be is more experienced. Rejection is only temporary , albeit very painful and embarrassing , and you should learn to encounter it without it dampening your spirits. This is especially true at the beginning while you are still mastering your approaches and finding what works best for you.
Take Action......Go out this weekend and approach twenty girls that you fancy using what this book has taught you. Now you will come up against a lot of rejections but that's not important. What is important is that you have started your training and will have learned something from every encounter. Remember to bear in mind that every girl , no matter how stunning , is a person like you , who wants to be treated like a person and not some sex object. Keep this with you always and your approaches and chat will naturally evolve to fit with your very own unique style and personality. And remember while you're learning , the more rejection you get now , the less you'll be getting later. So get it out of the way now. Remember - to be good at anything requires practice .
I know that if you're not used to picking up girls , then getting started can be a nerve racking experience. I know because I've been there. But you have got to do it !!!
